Monday, March 5, 2012

My Love

I did it.  I found it.  I didn't mean to nor did I think I ever wanted to.  I found what I seem to have never dared to dream about or perhaps just didn't know how to or what to dream about.  Love.  Not love of work or love of friends or love of family.  Not love of art or love to travel.  Not love to help or to console the feelings or physical needs of others.  Not love for self or love for God.  Intimate love with another human being that cannot easily be compared to any type of love.  It is never the same for any two persons.  What we experience gives me the kind of love that I want and allows me to give the kind of love that he wants.

As a huge believer in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, I feel the desire to state that a woman never really needs a man; nor do men every really need a woman, but the intense wanting to keep him forever sometimes feels like a true necessity.  Real necessities are just the basics which Maslow has told us include breathing, water, food, homeostasis, excretion, sleep, and sex.   I disagree with sex as being a vital necessity but have witnessed the absolute need for all of the other basics.  Fulfilling only the most basic elements necessary to keep one alive (breathing, balance of nutrition, circulation, excretion) is usually not enough to justify the continuation of life which is why quality of life by fulfilling at least some if not all of the other elements is so important to us as human beings.  Why accept deficits when we have the opportunities to fulfill the elements which bring wholeness to our lives?

I don't need a man to make or to keep me happy - I was extremely happy and content before I found my love.  I don't need a man to help me to enjoy and experience the endless adventures and opportunities that life has to offer - I was never one to pass up an exciting trip, lend a helping hand, or try a daring activity.  I don't need the dates.  I really don't need.  I just want so badly that it feels like a need.

The happiness and contentedness that I have with my love is such a new and completely fulfilling life experience.  Everything good that I previously experienced alone and was completely content with is now so intensified and amazing in a whole new way now that I have someone to share it with. 
It is complete trust.  Being absolutely comfortable with one's self in the presence of the other half.  It's giving 100% and always wanting the absolute best for one another.  Never wanting to go back to life alone.  It really is that good.

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